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This morning we said goodbye to Cuervo. In the last few days he took a serious turn for the worse and last night he was just barely able to walk, hardly able to eat, and just so draggy and sick we made the hard choice. *is sad*

It colored my day, and all little annoyances turned into big ones, and I had to take a time out for myself and go cry in the bathroom.

This morning they were talking to us about how FMLA (medical leave) works, and while the nurse was there, a brief mention was made of whether or not same-sex partners were covered; she "thought they were." Then we get a "clarification email" which contained this line:

“Immediate family members” (for Category A absences) include the employee's:

· Spouse - a husband or wife as defined or recognized under State law for purposes of marriage in the State where the employee resides, including common law marriage in States where it is recognized


Sounds like, for all my company's touting "diversity and inclusion," when it comes to brass tacks it's all bullshit. This also made me very unhappy.

Word Count: 12,115

I liked the first episode of V. Still loving FlashForward. (Ooo! Ooo!!! OOOOOO!!!!) Am filled with a certain amount of satisfaction that, apparently, the only team who can prevent the Yankees from taking the World Series are the Arizona Diamondbacks (at least, our 2001 team could).

Tomorrow is Friday. Saturday I walk the Cancer Walk with Barb and then I'm getting my hair cut because I want it to look nice for the cruise. Only one week away, and I have lost no more weight. At least I think I look pretty good, anyway; and I have a whole week!

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nutmeg3
Nov. 6th, 2009 03:09 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry about Cuervo. Even knowing you did the right thing, it's so hard. And I'm sorry about your company's asshat policies, too.
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:46 am (UTC)
Thank you.

Well, it's FEDERAL asshatery, but same diff. Stupid DOMA.

evil_little_dog
Nov. 6th, 2009 03:11 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to read about Cuervo. *hugs*

And the office 'tolerance' policy, too. ...siiiiigh....
cornerofmadness
Nov. 6th, 2009 03:41 am (UTC)
sorry about Cuervo and the work policy
shipperx
Nov. 6th, 2009 04:14 am (UTC)
So sorry for your loss. A pet is family and it hurts terribly to lose part of your family. ::hug::
doll_paparazzi
Nov. 6th, 2009 04:34 am (UTC)
Sorry about your cat. ::hugs::
mustangsally78
Nov. 6th, 2009 04:37 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry
about Cuervo. He was a great cat and you loved him as long as you could. No matter what, it still hurts.

FMLA sucks - I hate the whole m/f only bias of it!
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:06 am (UTC)
Re: I'm so sorry
Thanks. {{hug}}
sillymagpie
Nov. 6th, 2009 05:31 am (UTC)
Oh, poor little Cuervo! ::hugs:: I'll miss him.

On a lighter note, check out Two Lumps for a NaNoWriMo joke. ::groans::
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:24 am (UTC)
He was a sweetheart.

Re: Two Lumps -- HEE!!!!
framefolly
Nov. 6th, 2009 06:54 am (UTC)
Darling Cuervo...I'll miss him.

He had a good, good time with you.

*angry face at your company*

You're walking on Saturday? I want to, but I don't know if I can get up that early 2 years in a row... :P
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:07 am (UTC)
I will indeed be walking. Hope you can make it! *g* (I know, I love sleeping in on Saturday, but I'm way overdo on the walk!)
ljs
Nov. 6th, 2009 12:00 pm (UTC)
[hugs hugs]

I'm glad that you have a happy thing like the cruise coming up.
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:20 am (UTC)
Thanks! {hug}
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wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:20 am (UTC)
Thank you.
hazel75
Nov. 6th, 2009 02:19 pm (UTC)
Goodness, I'm so sorry. It's very hard to lose a beloved kitty even if you know it's coming. ::hugs::
hazel75
Nov. 6th, 2009 02:23 pm (UTC)
And re: the FMLA stuff -- although this isn't any help to you now, I wouldn't be surprised to see a Supreme Court case about this kind of stuff in the near future. If your marriage is recognized as legal in the state in which you were married, I don't see how another state can fail to honor it under the Full Faith and Credit clause of the U.S. Constitution. Wish I could be the one to argue that case one day...
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:17 am (UTC)
Well, the thing is, same-sex marriage is no longer legal in California (although ours is supposed to still be, and I really want to know how they're going to dance around THAT one)... so while the optimistic part of me thinks you're right, it's gonna happen, the other part of me is still pretty down about how the votes have been rolling...
janetmiles
Nov. 6th, 2009 07:45 pm (UTC)
I am sorry to hear about Cuervo.

And I'm angry to hear about the so-called diversity policy. (My university is sorta kinda working on being more tolerant and supportive of GLTBQIetc. members of the community, but slowly. I still remember them saying, about 10 years ago, "We'd love to have a policy of equal protection based on sexual orientation, but the state doesn't require it and so we're not allowed to." To which my response was, approximately, "What the HELL?".)
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 12:19 am (UTC)
Thank you.

I suppose it's because 1) it's a nationwide company, and 2) it's a Federal program, and as such they're stuck with laws state-by-state, because when it comes to things within the Company, there's never a problem. It's just when the Feds get involved. (For example, I had no trouble at all getting the time off Paid Sick Family when Barb had her colonoscopy.)

typographer
Nov. 7th, 2009 01:36 am (UTC)
*is sad about cuervo*

Company policies are always irritating. We had the annual meeting to 'splain about new insurance, and it's bad enough that "enrolled employee +1 family member" does not include domestic partners, but when an employee asks (because the paperwork doesn't make it clear), the person making the presentation from HQ should not glare at the person who asked, and answer as if someone just asked him to dissect his own mother.
wildrider
Nov. 7th, 2009 01:41 am (UTC)
Fortunately, our rep did not glare, and was pretty open about same-sex partners, but of course FMLA is a Federal deal, so therefore they have to follow DOMA. Phooey.

(I of course have nothing to worry about NOW, and hopefully never will, but...)

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